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Do It, Men!

To men out there who are man enough to read this, excuse my frankness. When it comes to money, there are two kinds you fall into. One: those who do have money and arrogantly flaunt it. Two: those who do not have money and shamelessly flaunt it. And both kinds are the pathetic kinds. The rest of you men… you don’t fall into any kind. And you are safe from my frankness – for now.

 

I mean, really! We all know that you can’t be having money all the time. When you do, and lots of it, that’s great. Good for you! But do you really have to unnecessarily show it, blogging about it, posting a scanned copy of receipts of your purchase as though the whole world has to know that your feet alone are wrapped in a pair of RM2557.65 worth shoes. Do you?

 

But man! That is still not as bad as announcing it to the world that you are broke. So broke that you could almost sell the Fung Keong canvas shoes your kindhearted Aunty Anne George bought you after your STP exam. And that is only so that you could buy a pack of GardeniaIn his back pocket! corn bun? Eeesssyyy walang hiya! That, I am so lah not sorry at all to say, patheticity at its worst! And then you’re complaining your girlfriend left you for a bloke who works at Burger King and drives a secondhand Citroen he paid RM14k for in cash!

 

Much of the pain is… indeed, self-chosen. But as painful as being broke can be, have some pride, will ya?

 

Still, a respectable man is not one who has the most or the least money. He is the one who respects his money and treats it like it is his secret lover. Go figure!

 

 

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Retro Speck

Wajah kesayangan hamba? Kah kah kah!I don’t usually write about strangers.  In fact, this entry isn’t about a stranger. I would like to dedicate this post to Irwan, my newly accepted ‘friend’ on Facebook. No, I don’t know him yet. He did not introduce himself in his Friend’s Request to me. And from this profile picture of himself, I swear I have never had a friend this retro. I pray to God hope this is just his ‘Untuk Hiasan Sahaja‘ kind of photo.

 

I don’t, let me assure you, usually accept any Friend’s Request from someone who does not have any mutual friend with me. I even wrote a note to a few people, asking if I had met them before, or if we had been introduced to each other before. True to the meaning of a friend, a stranger remains a stranger, ya know.

 

But in this case, because Irwan is a friend of a very very good friend of mine… I thought, Irwan would not and should not turn out to be DJ Dave or any Hi-One I would not really want to know. I also figured out using my own logic, that for Irwan to put such a hideous mysterious photo on his Facebook profile, he must be one of the two: i. He is extremely good-looking, ii. He is extremely mysterious. And both are good. Hehehehehe. You are free to interpret my “Hehehehehe” in your own way. No mystery here.

 

Uh, did you know that DJ Dave’s other name is Irwan Shah?

 

 

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Cope-n-Hope

At times I know I sound harsh. Most of the times, I don’t (know). Call it defense-mechanism, what-you-don’t-know-doesn’t-bother-you mechanism or whatever mechanisms have you. It doesn’t bother me what and how you label others. It doesn’t bother me what and how you label me. I am comfortable in my own brown skin (semi-D Chinese, half-hitched Indian, duplexed Malay skin). Yes, I am made up of more than just 100 percent of anything, everything. 1Malaysian. Proudly.

 

But behind the hard-boiled, hard-core harshness… I am just a child who has just lost her Mommy. I am just a Mommy who has just lost her Monchies’ grandma. And I am just a sailor who has just lost her pharos, her anchor and her true north. If  I am a bit too harsh, too arrogant to be seen drop-dead crying the Oprah’s ugly cry, and if I chose to still be that drop-dead gorgeous WordPress blogger woman… gimme a break lah kan. Even a diva needs that Azean Irdawaty’s anak wayang moment.

 

I’m coping I’m hoping. And I’m hoping I’m coping. And I’m gone… acting tough. 
Light, camera, action!

 

 

Postlude:
Ehhh! Chicheyyy pulawk kemeira koi ni tadi ateh lemaghi howk dekeik ngei telipoang te. Poh palih peluper nyer! Denggg!

 

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Facing The Book

For the first time after 8 days since Mom’s departure, I am facing the book again. The book I am writing. No, it has nothing to do with Facebook (no matter how much it is causing me grief at the moment, bah!)

 

Enida is gone grieving.

 

 

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Returning

I am still grieving. I am not going to deny it and I won’t apologize. Too many people say sorry when they don’t know what they are sorry for, and most say sorry for all the wrong reasons anyway.

 

As a matter of course, I am glad I am grieving. Thank you Qunie (and Be, and Sia Peng, and Karen, and Nina, and many others) for putting the fact in a sentence… that there is perfectly no harm to do just that, and for ‘sentencing’ me to grieving, taking as long as I see fit taking.

 

But then again… grieving has long been in the act of writing to me. So here I am. I have returned to do the grieving thing again. Thank you for greading.

 

 

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Kenanga Without an End

I do have a chapter to write. But at the moment, the very reason for writing the whole book is being written on my page of life. I am gone reading at a hospital ward called Kenanga. Shhhhh…

 

One thousand million smiles...

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Heavenly Heavy

Leave the light on for me...I woke up  yesterday  morning  with a  heavy feeling. So heavy, that I went straight downstairs, washed my hands, lit a candle for my Mom, grabbed whatever leftovers I could grab for Kitreena’s lunchbox and pretended that it was going to be another great day. It was for sure a great day for Kitreena – Daddy walked her to school, cool! Of course she went on her two wheels, helmet on and all, looking more and more like a sophomore than a lil kindy, that angel babygirl of mine.

 

Just when I thought what heaved me was the feelings of me mommy-ing  me Monchies who are growing as fast as they could say “Bye Mom!” I was suddenly reminded of the strange dreams I had the night before. Of my Mommy! The dreams that kept taking me back to the tiny house by which I remember my Mom the most. So tiny was the house that we always had to run into each other like little kittens in a roofed-box! We could not run, nor could we hide from one another in that ‘745-U’ little box. (I don’t suppose this explains my peculiar habit of hiding in a gobok everytime I run away from stressful confrontations, does it? Isyyy!)

 

It wasn’t until I started Skyping with KaCher that the onerousness became nothing but the opposite of dream. It was all real and touchable. That my Mom is… departing. And it is now and here that I started wishing that the whole world were as tiny as that little roofed-box where Mom raised me to be nothing less than her little angel.

 Gerimis di laman bonda...

 

I am not hiding. I am so far from everything and everyone… that if I hide, nobody comes looking for me. So I am now running home to Mom before she spreads her wings.

 

 

Spread your wings and fly
No kiss and no goodbye
In the thoughts that never die
Your name is a song of cry.

~ Enida
April 1997
Bangi Lama

 

 

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Loaving You

Be's Banana Loaf

Be baked these two loaves of Banana Bread this morning to use up those frozen ancient bananas we’ve had since, uh… since the last Pharaoh was mummified. Yes, that old! And since there was enough bananas for two loaves, Be made one for Hari Raya and one for today, our 111th monthly anniversary. Mmm… I might not have said much about him, about us and about those other sweet things we have in our relationship… but I love it when he goes bananas on me like this with his baking skills!

 

Double-batch, double loaves.

Other than that, we’re taking it easy today. Kitreena is still coughing and is still on anti-biotics until Tuesday. Be too has started coughing his nasty chesty cough since yesterday. So the morning and mid-day was spent watching An Unfinished Life, a feel-good movie all shot on a ranch in Alberta and British Columbia, around Ashcroft, Kamloops, Burdett and Medicine Hat. Loved the ranch, loved the trees, loved the bear, loved Robert Redford, loved Jennifer Lopez and loved Morgan Freeman.

 

Baked with love. Chewah!

And right now, while writing this, I am watching Juno. Yeah, yeah… totally long overdue but I am glad we are watching it now. Today. Totally loved what the Dad said to Juno: “Look, in my opinion, the best thing you can do is find a person who loves you for exactly what you are. Good mood, bad mood, ugly, pretty, handsome, what have you, the right person is still going to think the sun shines out your ass. That’s the kind of person that’s worth sticking with.” I don’t mind it being the tagline for our 111th monthly anniversary, all right!

 

Double celebration!And while doing dishes this evening, I noticed how I have learned to put the gloves on. It is almost automatic now that my hands would reach for them gloves before touching anything in the sink. For the truth is, I have come to appreciate my only pair of hands and have begun to pamper them as much as I possibly can.  The diamond ring and the wedding band… they probably last longer than my hands. So the rings can stay on my fingers when I do dishes. Or laundry. Or when I shower. Or when I do anything. Or nothing. They stay. Just like I stay banded to The Banana Bread man.

 

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Berkurung Tak Berkurang

The going to the International Women’s Club of Moscow itself was already international as there were four nationalities all in a German car. Jo-Anne being South African, Julia a New Zealander, Truly-Asia-half-Chinese-half-Indian Malaysian me, and Velerie the Russian chauffeur. But when I made new friends with an Indonesian Diana, an Argentinian Maria, two American Kristy’s (cool eh!), a French Patricia, A Belgian Tina, and a few others whose name I will have to check my iPAQ to recall… I felt at home among these away-from-home new friends.

 

For internationality’s sake, I donned a Baju Kurung too, to the International Women’s Club meeting. Alasan sebenar berbaju kurung tersebut ialah kerana hendak menutup kulit kering dan 🙂 ketidakcukuran di kaki. Hah! Ketahuan sudah! Although, I genuinely did have another motive. And that was to attract other Malaysians, or any other Malay-speaking women. And I did! As I was turning my back leaving the registration desk, I was greeted, “Are you from Malaysia?”  The rest, as they say, is herstory of another Malaysian-Indonesian friendship.

 

I was, however, a bit disappointed to see no other Malaysians there. Disappointed, because I know there are at least a handful of Malaysians residing in downtown Moscow alone. And even less than the least… the Malaysian embassador’s wife, I thought, would and should be there, nyet? Unless, of course, she balik kampung  like any other Malaysian diplomats’ wives who can afford to spend tax-payers’ money to pay for their balik-kampungness.

 

Baju Kurung Ulang Tayang. I repeat... Baju Kurung Ulang Tayang!And there are tons of Malaysian female students here in Moscow whom I think would benefit from such an international organization. But I saw none. If there were any, they could not have missed me in my bright pink Baju Kurung and should have given me a nudge asking me, “Hoyy! Tak puasa kah?” when I was sipping on my coffee at the refreshment table. I would have told them anak bulan Syawal sudah kelihatan beberapa malam sudah di Bukit Pokrovsky.

 

As an internationally proud Malaysian woman, I wonder a lot about other Malaysian women here in Moscow. Di manakah dikau?

 

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Outta Pochta

Dear families, friends, foes and foie gras…
This is an apology entry bearing my 2009 + 1430 apologies for not able to mail you Raya cards like I did last year and the year before that and the year before that year. Not only the subcontract of the Raya card-making fell through due to the subcontractor’s health (Kitreena has been unwell since Tuesday September 8th, has been missing school since September 9th, and is now undergoing treatment for strep throat).

 

I also just found out that Russian Post (called Pochta) is not as reliable as I was hoping it would be. But to send out one standard-size, standard-weight card by DHL would cost me 2800 Rubels = RM280. Yes! For one card! After a thorough calculation, I figured that it is cheaper to send myself to Malaysia… overweight and all by DHL than sending 25 cards. Hehehe. But no, I am not coming home by DHL. Not by Singapore Airlines or Thai Airways either.

 

So before most of you head home wherever home is, to be with your loved ones… I am hoping you could catch this 2009 + 1430 apology entry and be reminded that you are in my thoughts and prayers as I carry you in my heart this Aidilfitri. Be blessed, be contented and be safe.

 

Cahaya Aidilfitri

Selamat Hari Raya Aidilfitri
Maaf Zahir & Batin

 

With lots of love from:
Enida
Karl
Kitreena
Edrick

 

Always.

 

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